It’s complicated

by Nola Darling

So when I first saw this as a relationship status possibility I thought it was a joke. I mean really, most of us have been in “complicated” situations before but we KNEW what the issue/s were that made it complicated. Complicated for some maybe the lack of verbal commitment while dating, even when you have spent time with their family or seem to spend every free moment with the person without truly being officially “girlfriend” or “boyfriend”. Complicated could be you are dating someone you don’t really like while waiting out someone else’s complicated to crack, or maybe you feel stuck with baby mama/baby daddy, or husband/wife but not willing to leave, or feel it’s ok to step out as long as you come home, in love with a married woman, complicated can be dating three men refusing to chose just one? …. Ohhh, the possibilities of the “it’s complicated” scenarios... but my overall issue is just calling it whatever it is what it is!

Regardless the situation one thing’s for sure you know whether or not if you’re single (defined as NOT married), married (I dos and LEGAL DOCUMENT, not you’ve been living together for 7 years and we got kids and/or shared bills), divorced, or separated. Our lives are not suppose to “complicated” what we do is complicate it. How can you live an abundant life if you are living complicated? So commitment in doing your part in building a stronger Black Family is to COMMUNICATE more effectively with your partner on the status of your relationship. NO “it’s complicated” by 2010, you got a year; step it up and define it, you are worthy of having the peace of living less complicated!